Finding strength and independence through sex work and Disability advocacy

Caldwell began her journey as a single mother in 2003, balancing a nursing career with the challenges of caring for four daughters while managing her disability. Initially, sex work offered a significantly higher income than her nursing shifts, allowing her to better support her family. Due to concerns about stigma and safety, she kept this aspect of her life private for 21 years.

As her hEDS progressed, making the physical demands of traditional work increasingly difficult, sex work became her primary source of income. Caldwell emphasizes that she is not alone, noting that many sex workers live with disabilities, drawn to the autonomy and flexible hours the profession offers. She credits the work with providing financial independence, particularly after being denied support from the National Disability Insurance Scheme (NDIS).

Caldwell describes herself as “athletic” despite her condition, and finds that the physical activity involved in her work strengthens her joints and provides natural pain relief through endorphin release. She has developed a strong connection with her clients, some of whom also have disabilities, allowing her to appreciate her own abilities and the importance of pleasure for those experiencing chronic pain.

Her book, *Slutdom: Reclaiming Shame-free Sexuality*, published two and a half years ago, marked a turning point in Caldwell’s journey towards embracing her identity and challenging societal shame surrounding sex. While she has faced slut-shaming and experienced violence, Caldwell finds strength in sexual pride and the independence it provides. She now embraces being known as a “GILF” providing “girlfriend experiences.”

Caldwell currently resides in Canberra, on Ngunnawal and Ngambri Country, and continues to advocate for sex workers and challenge societal stigmas.